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This is partly a journal of our experiences as caregivers in general and in particular as witnesses to the gradual decline of Carol and Judi’s elderly father. This will not be about the daily jobs of arranging and implementing caregiving. Instead it will be about how we react to these issues and what we’ve learned about keeping ourselves sane as we stumble down this road together.

While our path is unique, we also realize that we do not travel this way alone. You who are with us or ahead of us on the path are ready to extend a helping hand, to share your own stories, to offer what you have learned, and to explore what you are still struggling to understand. All it takes is a word about our situation as caregivers to unleash a torrent of empathy, vulnerability, and advice from friends, coworkers and passing strangers all hungry for connection and desperate for some kind of exchange.

We hope this blog will carry us all from caregiver desperation to connection, support, conversation and a new understanding of ourselves and our loved ones at this terrible and mysterious stage of life. We may at the least relieve some of our caregiver stress through sharing and listening. At best we may find a way to redeem our fears about the inevitable end of this road in the hopes of rising above negative attitudes about aging and death.